Don't worry, be happy :)
Focus on life issues.
Ask Arlene MD is to focus on anything that has to do with mental health. In the past I've written about relationships but now I would like to focus more on mental health and try to be educational and entertaining. Life is always about relationships. These are either male, female, parent, child, neighbors, teachers, and the list is infinite. How we interact with others define us. If we are angry, we can develop toxic relationships. If we have a better attitude, then we will be happy. Happiness is really a state of mind. You chose to feel happy. You chose to be sad. You choose to be angry. You chose to be mean. Hopefully if you read this blog you will use it for insight, not to attack others. The purpose is to try to make people have a better and positive look at life. Enjoy!
Monday, August 23, 2010
Interview of a man
Q: Do men ever fall in love?
A: Yes, we do. When we do, we do it quickly and deeply.
Q: Then why are women always seeming to be dumped by a guy?
A: When a man falls for a woman, he commits entirely to her. However, men are usually on the prowl, searching for adventure and fun. They like a challenge. If a woman reveals her feelings too quickly and openly, this may turn a guy off because he loses the challenge. It can get boring after awhile. However, the older a man gets, the less he wants to "chase" a woman. He wants to live a peaceful life. He wants stability, just like woman wants.
Q: It seems that every weekend, there are more women hanging out with girlfriends at restaurants than men. Meanwhile, the men that are at those same restaurants usually have a date with them. Why the inequalities at these restaurants? Why does this differences exist?
A: I've noticed the same thing. There are a bunch of girls together and very few men alone. I believe most men are in their homes with their spouses. Married men tend to hang out during Happy Hour during week days after work. This should be a red flag for women when they meet a man during Happy Hour with other men. Most probably, he is married and looking for a good time.
Q: So where can a single woman meet a nice man?
A: Usually men meet their future wives while in college. After that, most probable at work or at Church. Seldom does a man meet a woman that he will take seriously at a Bar.
Q: When do men want to get married?
A: Usually, during their late twenties to early thirties. They have finished their degrees and want to settle down and have a family. The second wave of men that will marry, are usually in their late forties and early fifties. These men usually have gone through a painful divorce or are young widowers. They don't want to grow older alone. However, if a man has been single into his sixties, the chances of him remarrying will decrease significantly with age. These men tend to see women as "gold diggers" that are after their retirement money. They usually don't want to share their wealth. This may be a misconception, but they don't see it that way. A word of advice is to stay away from these older men. A good rule of thumb would be that men who are married between 30 to 50 years old, most probably will stay married with their current spouse. The best window of opportunity would be single men younger than thirty or divorced, and widowed men older than fifty.